Hey there! Here’s an insightful post on a topic that’s actually bothered me for a while, written by Temitope Omotosho.
There’s no doubt about it… one way or another we have been hurt by people close to us or random people we meet each day.
I can recall when I was deeply hurt by someone close to me and I just felt like distancing myself from the person or thinking up ways to get back at the person… to get my revenge.
But God didn’t let me. He made me understand that He has forgiven me of my sins on numerous occasions and He expects me to do the same to others that hurt me.
Honestly, forgiveness was not an easy feat. But I did.
We must all realise that as humans, we aren’t perfect. We all have our flaws and imperfections but does that make us any less lovable to God? God hates our sins but not us. He said in His Word that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us. He had already forgiven us of our sins. But we find it hard forgiving those who offend us.
Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive]. – Colossians 3:13 AMPC
I have recently just really sat down to watch Passion of Christ. I remember, as shown in the movie, that when Jesus was led to being crucified and up till His crucifixion, they showed simultaneously when He spoke to others about loving our enemies and all. Jesus did as He had taught and showed us that great example, which we are to follow.
But you may say He’s Jesus and had the power and gracs to forgive and you aren’t like Him. How can we forgive when we hurt so much?
We may not be perfect but then we aim to be like Christ. Getting angry or holding grudges against someone that hurt us won’t help matters or do us any good. It would only make us grow bitter towards that person. We all know doing that is a sin against God.
Matthew 5:23-24 KJV, “23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; 24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.”
If we have a grudge against anyone we must settle it with them first before bringing an offering to God that He would accept. It means God is in full support of reconciliation/forgiveness no matter what the person has done!
Mark 12:31 KJV, And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
You should love your neighbor and also do to others what you would like them to do for you. What if you were the one who offended your friend and did what they did to you; wouldn’t you want to be forgiven?
I’m sure you would.
So back to my question: how can we forgive when we hurt so much?
By praying for those who have offended us. I don’t mean you should pray for them to die or for evil to jump back on their heads or something. No. I mean pray for them to get better. Pray for them to become more like Christ. Pray for them to be saved (if they aren’t already). In other words, pray what you would want another person you have hurt to pray for you.
It may start off difficult at first but ask for God’s grace to help you forgive.
Jesus prayed for those who hurt Him. I believe we can do that as well.
Luke 23:33-34, “33 And when they were come to the place, which is called Calvary, there they crucified him, and the malefactors, one on the right hand, and the other on the left. 34 Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”
Who knows, God may be using this experience to grow you into becoming more like or to enable you show love to them in a way they never thought possible.
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